Discussion Response to Allison

The two principles of listening that I need to work on are work at listening and reducing emotional deaf spots. An emotional deaf spot is when someone is speaking to you, and it sparks a memory or trigger word, and then you just get distracted and starting going down a rabbit hole of what that means to you. While you are side tracked and going down that rabbit hole, you are not hearing the next part of the conversation being spoken to you. Manning (2018) discussed that when you become emotionally deaf due to an invaded thought, your listening efficacy drops almost immediately to zero (p. 214). The second factor I need to work on is to work at listening. Manning (2018) describes the actions of someone who needs to work on listening as someone who does not emotionally pay attention, especially with maintaining poor eye contact and poor posture. Manning (2018) also described someone who can be so familiar or close with someone that you can almost predict what they can say, so you mentally check out. I have 100% found myself doing that before. I have had a close family member ask me to repeat what they just told me and the last thing I remembered was something they actually said two to three minutes ago.